What is the one thing that separates the winners from the losers in life?
It’s probably not what you think!
Watch this video to find out what it is, and how to get more of it in your life.
Let me ask you this question – what is the one thing that separates the winners from the losers in life?
What do you think it is?
Let me tell you. It is action. Winners takes action.
Something we’ve previously discussed is how you gain belief in your ability to achieve your goals. You take action. You take action and you start getting results.
So what is it that keeps us from taking action?
Reason #1: Comfort
The number one reason is we are comfortable where we are. If we take action, we are more likely going to face a lot of discomfort, trying to get to where it is that we want to be. However, it is only through that discomfort that we can achieve what it is we want.
A quick exercise to see how well you deal with discomfort is the “Which Thumb on Top” exercise. What I want you to do is this: First take your fingers and just fold them as you normally would. Notice which hand is on top. My left hand is on top of my right. Now, open up your hands and move your fingers up one.
How does that feel?
For me it feels really weird, it feels uncomfortable. My arms are literally trying to reject me holding my hands in this way. And it does not feel good whatsoever, it feels supremely uncomfortable.
When I put my hands back, everything relaxes, it feels good, it’s back to normal.
Winners take action and work through the discomfort. They will sit there long enough through the discomfort until they start to feel comfortable. You may have heard the phrase “Get comfortable feeling uncomfortable.” That’s absolutely true.
Reason #2: Fear
Another reason people do not take action is fear.
You may have seen many different acronyms for fear. One of my favorites is Fantasized Experiences Appearing Real.
We’ve spoken in previous videos about the power of our mind, especially when we talked about visualization, and using visualization to help you achieve your goals. Fear is nothing more than visualizing an outcome we do not want to happen.
And what is it that? Nothing more than a thought.
Fear is a thought of something, a fantasized experience that appears real, of something that we do not want, which then triggers an emotional response we call fear.
If you want to get ahead, if you want to achieve your goals, if you want to avoid burning out because you are stressed out and not sleeping because you are freaked out, full of anxiety – all of that fun stuff that neither you or I want in our life in any way, shape, or form – if you want to get through all of that, and maintain your clarity, build your business, and move forward quickly, you have to work through the fear and get used to feeling uncomfortable.
A Very Important Note
There is something very important that I want to say here. I am not suggesting that you try and suppress your fear. In my experience, suppression of any emotion is very bad. Suppressing emotions is what led me to drinking many, many, many years ago. I’ve been sober for 20 years, and I’ve moved past a lot of that stuff. However, I will tell you that suppressing emotions is not good. In fact, I suggest you feel it. You feel the fear and you do that thing that you’re afraid of anyway.
As an example, maybe to grow your business you need to call people on the phone – do cold calling, or call someone to ask for a sale. And you might feel fear around that. Well, that is an event. You think about something, it causes fear in your body, so your response is going to be either one of two things.
Response #1: Feel the Fear and Take Action Anyway
You’re going to work through that fear and do that thing anyway, make that phone call, talk to that person, and get an outcome, which could potentially be a sale.
If someone says no, you just say, “Next!”, or “Okay, next!”, or “Thank you, next!” You move on from that no to find that yes. That’s one potential response.
Response #2: Do Nothing
Another response is that you feel that fear and you do nothing. Doing nothing is always an option. Typically not the option you ever want to take, except in some circumstances doing nothing is honestly the best. But in this example that we’re using of calling that person and potentially making a sale, doing nothing is not what you should be doing.
If you choose though to do nothing, you will never know if you would have made the sale. In fact, your outcome could be more fear and more anxiety because you never knew, never found out what was actually going to happen.
Get Comfortable Feeling Uncomfortable
Get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable. That means feeling the fear, and allowing yourself to feel that fear.
That’s very important.
Allowing yourself to feel any emotion is very important. You feel that, you do the thing anyway, and you get the outcome that you want, or you keep working towards the outcome that you want. By doing that you will become more fearless in your actions, and you will be able to maintain your clarity while building your business because you are not living a life where you are stressed out, anxious and living in fear.
That is a very bad place to come from.
It will also show on you. People will know. They will see that you’re stressed out, see that you’re anxious. No one wants to be around that. At least I don’t, and I hope you don’t either. I don’t even want be around myself when I’m like that.
So work through that stuff.
Deal with the discomfort. Work through the fear. Do the thing anyway. And you will absolutely achieve the goals that you are setting out to do, and you will be head and shoulders above all of those people that feel the fear and allow themselves to be stopped by that.